Everywhere you look there is a person proclaiming the right to do this, or the right not to be forced to do that. You know, the right to choose. Whether it is abortion (for or against), marriage (equal for all or allowed for only a select group), politics (Obama or Clinton or McCain). We, as Americans, even have the right to choose where we live.
I recently saw an interview with a person who believes all these choices people think they have are actually fabrications. They stated when you go into a grocery store you see all the different apples and think you have many choices. The truth is there really are only three different types of apples (for the most part) in grocery stores to choose from.
Take political candidates. You think you are choosing the next president, Congressional Representative or even Senator. But the truth is you get to select from only those candidates that are provided. If Joe Smith cannot afford to advertise they are not invited to any debates nor does the media really mention them. Eventually this candidate drops out. Or in the presidential campaign. If you are not elected by the Democratic convention or Republican convention then you have no chance of becoming president. So unless you choose a Democrat or a Republican nominee then you are not really getting to choose anything. Even when you do vote for president it's the state's delegates that actually choose not the voters.
You have heard of it before. 2000 presidential election in Florida. Gore won the popular vote (or had the highest number of votes cast by the voters) but Bush was selected by the state's delegates. So Bush won the state.
I guess it's better to say as Americans we have choices. It's just we must select from the choices given to us, not neccessarily the choice we may want.
So where am I going with this?
I am currently choosing to not date. I am choosing to not seek out and have a relationship. However, looking at it from the point of view that I have to select from the options presented to me this is how my decision came about.
I am presented with these options;
1. Date the first person that comes along
2. Be more choosier but only so far as the limited selection as I am presented
3. Just have random sex with little to no selectiveness
4. Have random sex but with some selectivness
5. Not date and tell everyone you are holding out for the right person
Okay, those aren't the selections I want but that's what I am given. So I choose not to date. I would rather be alone than settle. Trust me I have done it before and it always comes out badly. Oh, I'm not a one night stand kind of guy so none of the random sex choices work for me either.
Here's my problem. My choices are limited now. Every year I get older and my choices for compatible love interest become more and more limited. One day there will come a time when I will need to just accept (or, *laugh*, choose to) I will be alone for the rest of my life.
Want to know the funny part?
I'm actually okay with that.
What's funnier is that I am okay with that right now. Next week maybe I won't be, then the week after I will be and so on. I bounce up and down on the whole subject. No wonder it's such a difficult endeavor to date me. It's practically impossible to predict what I want or when I will want it.
Now, if I only had as much to offer as to equal out the difficulty of dating me. Then we would be cooking with oil.
Until then I am choosing not to date and holding out for the right person to come along or for me to find.
(see, I almost believe it myself)
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